Dear Purpose-Driven Woman,

I’m in deep gratitude that you’re here.

I know it’s not easy and takes gumption and courage to face these relationship issues head-on and to ask for help.

It is so easy to overlook flags, to not speak up about our needs and concerns, and to cling to hope that he will change because we’re scared of “losing him,” scared of being alone, and scared of not being loved back.

Meanwhile, we continue to invest our mental and emotional energy, and our precious time, into our relationship while in this emotional limbo.

I totally get it. That was me for many, many years.

When we have an anxious attachment style, we spend SO MUCH of our mental and emotional (and physical) energy worrying about and obsessing about our relationships, often unconsciously to the exclusion of our own wellness, goals, and dreams.

We are so focused on meeting someone else’s needs that we forget that we have needs, too.

Or we don’t bring up our own needs and concerns at all, we bury them beneath our pain, we pretend we’re ok when we’re not because we’re afraid of rejection and ultimately being alone.

We’re afraid of losing what we’ve got.

We’re afraid of being unloved.

So we spend our dating life playing “not to lose,” instead of going what we really want. 

I see you, dear Luminous Woman.

I see you wanting to shine your light,

wanting to be who you are,

wanting to express yourself,

wanting to be free from the emotional turmoil,

wanting to have deeply fulfilling love,

and wanting to live the life that you’re meant to live. 

You’re here because you want real change.

You don’t want to feel so anxious, insecure, and preoccupied anymore.

You want to engage in your dating relationship in healthy and sustainable ways.

You want assurance, stability, and commitment. 

But above all, you want to be deeply true to yourself. 

To feel empowered. Confident. Grounded in who you are and what matters to you.

In your GODDESS element. 

But you worry that he senses your anxiousness, he feels when you chase and cling, and you worry you’ll push away the right guy with your insecurities.

Yet you know in your heart that you don’t want to waste any more time if he’s not the one for you.

But you don’t know if he’s “Mr. Right” because there are so many things that hurt right now in your relationship.

I so acknowledge you for your self-awareness and for wanting to get off the emotional roller coaster.

I so acknowledge you for wanting to end painful patterns, learn relationship skills, and heal unconscious barriers to love so that you can have deeply fulfilling love and be mentally and emotionally free to be in your truth and be in your purpose.

If anxious attachment has been a problem for you in your romantic relationships and you want to feel confident and secure (and make conscious relationship decisions) so that you can have a deeply fulfilling life and love, I can help.