Do you have an anxious attachment style and want support with being more secure?
Does any of this sound like your relationship right now?…
You’re tired of waiting for him to “be ready.”
You’re tired of feeling “in limbo.” Tired of trying to figure out what his plan is. “Does he want to be with me or what??” The waiting and uncertainty is driving you crazy. You’re telling yourself to “be patient,” but it’s hard.
You’re feeling confused. There’s so much chemistry. You’re attracted to each other. You know he has feelings for you. Maybe he’s even expressed his love. But he’s not moving things along! So you’re unsure if he wants to be your boyfriend or he just wants a booty call.
You’re feeling discouraged about the future of your relationship — and about your love life. You don’t want to be dating forever. You really want to move to the next step.
You’re feeling confused because you don’t know where your relationship is going (if anywhere!).
You love being with him, but there are issues in the relationship, and it’s making you question whether to go into deeper levels of involvement with him. You don’t know whether you should give him a chance or walk away.
And you’re scared of making the wrong decision because it feels like you keep getting it wrong…either staying in a relationship longer than you should have or walking away from a good thing and regretting it.
You’re stressed trying to get him to prioritize your relationship and commit.
You feel like you’re chasing him…and it leaves you feeling insecure and anxious. Part of you is worried he’ll pull away because you know you’re putting pressure on him.
You love him. You want a future with him. You’ve invested so much time and heart into your relationship. You’re hoping things will change, that he’ll finally start putting you first in his life. But you’re sad and frustrated that he’s not making your relationship more of a priority.
Meanwhile, the clock is ticking. You’re thinking “I’m not getting any younger…” and so you’re scared of wasting your precious time in a potentially dead-end relationship.
Communication with him is a challenge because he’s not up front about things.
You’re not feeling heard when you bring up issues. Or you don’t know how to bring them up. You’re worried he’ll get defensive or that you won’t be understood. You don’t want to pressure him. You feel hesitant, tongue-tied…unsure what to say or how to say it and when.
You’re feeling insecure from all his baggage and drama because he still has unresolved issues with his ex.
You’re worried he’s still emotionally attached to her. Maybe he keeps in contact with her. Does things for her. Pays for things. You’re angry and confused because sometimes it even feels like he even defends her and puts her first! Not to mention letting his kids walk all over him.
You’re worried that he’s not totally over her. You’re scared that he might be on the rebound and that you’re just the transitional woman that he’s using right now to tend his wounds, make him feel good, and be his emotional crutch before he dumps you and moves on to a real relationship with a different woman.
I totally feel where you are coming from.
What you really want is a deeply fulfilling committed relationship.
You want commitment.
You want to feel secure in your relationship, to feel stable, supported and happy. You want to be happily married to your life partner, where you’re both excited to build your dreams together, like own your own place or have the family you desire, without emotional or financial struggle.
You want to be his priority.
A relationship where he doesn’t feel pressured, but rather, he willingly, eagerly turns toward you and knows you’re the one for him. You want to feel trust and assurance that your relationship is moving forward. You want to know that he wants a future with you and is taking steps to commit to you, whether that’s finalizing his divorce (if he’s separated), setting boundaries with his ex, or finally move together. You want to know that he’s yours.
You want to feel more confident in dating.
You wish your relationship would just organically progress from dating to commitment (and to engagement!). You wish you it were way easier to tell whether or not you should stay or go. You wish you knew whether you should go into deeper levels of involvement with a man, and how to tell if he’s really Mr. Right.
You want to know that you’re compatible.
You want a relationship where you can share your lives more fully, and feel a deep bond of love and intimacy. You’re excited to have a relationship where you have good harmony, where you work out issues together and contribute equally to the relationship with mutual trust and respect.
You want to feel understood, and have open, honest communication.
You want a true confidant where you feel free, comfortable and confident expressing yourself and your needs. You want a great friendship with your partner, one where you can mutually share deep feelings, resolve conflict with greater ease, and deepen your bond and connection.
You’re ready for a real relationship.
You’re ready for a man who treats you like a priority, not like an option. A relationship where you love, support and grow together. You want to be married to your best friend. You’re ready for a man who will give the relationship 100%, someone who’s emotionally available, and wants to work on the issues to make you happy.
You’re ready for the love of your life.
You’re ready for a deep and lasting connection. Someone you can be yourself with. Someone who brings out the best in you. A partnership where you feel comfortable and secure.
You want to know his love is genuine, and that he feels the same way for you as you do for him. You want a man who truly gets you and celebrates you, a man you can be yourself with, and who will love you all the more for you just being you.
You have hope that it’s possible, but unsure how to make it happen.
Turn Your Love Life Around
I’m a relationship coach for women who have an anxious attachment style. I help my clients free themselves from painful relationship patterns so that they can make conscious relationship decisions and feel confident, empowered, and secure in themselves no matter what’s going on in their love life.
Having the relationship you want is possible.
Relationship Clarity Sessions will help you figure out exactly what you need to do right now to make strides toward the relationship you want.
In your sessions, you can get personalized help on how to:
- Figure out whether to stay or go so that you avoid settling and don’t waste your time in an unhappy or dead-end relationship
- Start being treated like a priority in his life (rather than an option) so that you avoid being relegated to the friend-zone, a booty call, or the rebound woman
- Progress your relationship from dating to commitment in a way that feels authentic, organic, and good to you, without resorting to games, pressure, or ultimatums
- Date with confidence and enjoy the moment; instead of feeling stressed, anxious, attached, or clingy
- Communicate effectively so that you know exactly what to say, how to say it, and when, so that you can express yourself confidently, resolve conflict with ease, and deepen your connection
- Know the status of your relationship so that you can feel more at peace about where your love life is going
- Get your needs met so you feel stable, supported, and happy
What are in Relationship Clarity Sessions?
Your Relationship Clarity Sessions include:
A Session Clarity Questionnaire to help you maximize our time together so your session is focused on empowering you with solutions to turn around your love life.
A 60-minute Relationship Clarity Breakthrough Session (by phone or video conference): Personalized dating and relationship support for your specific situation, so you can have the peace of mind and confidence that comes with knowing what to do next to have the relationship you want.
Resources and Strategies to accelerate your relationship goals: You’ll get clear next steps and recommendations that you can implement right away so you can make progress toward having the relationship you want.
Ready to step off the emotional roller coaster and feel more confident in your love life?
Here’s How to Get Started:
Step 1. Take a look at my calendar or session packages below. Choose the package that you feel makes sense for you. (1, 2, 3 or 5 sessions. And there’s no limit on how many you can purchase during the sale!) if you want to book directly on my calendar, choose a day and time that work for you for your 60-minute session. (If none of the given times work, just email me at hello@melissathelovecoach.com and we’ll find a time that works).
Step 2. After purchasing your session or package, you’ll receive an email from me with links to my Confidentiality Agreement and your Session Clarity Questionnaire.
Step 3. Then we’ll hold your session and get you on your way to having the life and relationship you want.
Have questions about how to book or other questions related to working with me? Please reach out! Email me here.