Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about what to do when you’re deeply involved with someone, maybe even in love with them, but it’s become apparent that they’re not over their ex. In my response, I provide guidance on how to approach this question when you’re already involved […]
Self-Care and Boundaries
When You’re in Love with Him but He Just Wants to Be Friends
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about what to do if you’re in love with a man but he just wants to be friends. In my response, I provide guidance on how to approach this issue, including specific scenarios in which a friendship with your ex could […]
Am I Insecure or Is This a Red Flag?
There was a time when I was so insecure in my relationships, I nearly went crazy when a call or text from me would go unanswered. My mind would start thinking the worst “Why isn’t he calling back? What is he doing? Who is he with?” And inevitably I would start blaming myself. “I shouldn’t […]
How to Avoid Settling in a Relationship
I write a lot about relationship readiness and the importance of knowing your vision, needs and relationship requirements. And it’s really important for your relationship happiness to have a deep awareness about all those things so you know what kind of relationship that you really want. But actually having the relationship that you really want […]
Will He Ever Be Ready to Commit?
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about how to know if your significant other will ever want to commit, especially if he said he isn’t ready for commitment. In my response, I offer perspective on what commitment really is, why he pulled away after having entered a […]