Have you ever spent hours on a first or second date, only to end up disappointed because you realize you’re not a match or he ghosts on you? Either way, it’s hard not to feel like you’ve wasted your time. It can weigh on your morale, start to make you feel jaded or tempted to […]
Dating Advice in General
How to Tell If You’re “Too Picky” With Guys or Settling
“Am I being too picky with guys?” “How do I know if I’m settling??” I hear these questions in my client sessions often. These questions are very closely related because they stem from the same issue: unmet needs. If you’re passing on dating some men, it’s likely because you’ve seen or experienced with your date […]
Not a Priority in His Life? How to Turn It Around.
Dear Melissa, I have been dating a divorced dad for a little over 3 months. We live 45 minutes away from each other. He has 50/50 custody of his kids (11 & 14) I have full custody of mine (16 & 22). Since he got 50/50 (March 2019) we went from seeing each other three […]
My Boyfriend Doesn’t Have a Sex Drive. What Do I Do?
Dear Melissa, I am widowed after four years and I reconnected with a childhood friend two years ago. We are living together. He’s very generous and affectionate, but extremely low sex drive. I’ve had long discussions with him to let him know how it makes me feel and listened to his explanations. He claims spiritual […]
What Should I Do If My Boyfriend Keeps Lying to Me?
Dear Melissa, Here’s my thing: I think my boyfriend is lying to me. I think he deletes all his ex’s texts. This has been going on for thirteen years, and I don’t think it will ever stop. The kids are old enough to tell him there is a problem. I’m not jealous of her but […]