“I almost ruined it with Scott,” my client Jessica confessed during our coaching session, her voice shaking slightly. “We had three amazing dates – deep conversations, genuine laughs, that spark we all hope for. Then he got all busy with a work project and his texts slowed down.” Jessica described how panic set in immediately. […]
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What’s the difference between accepting healthy uncertainty in relationships versus tolerating mixed signals and dysfunction?
Today’s Ask Melissa Question: What’s the difference between “accepting uncertainty as a natural part of dating and relationships” versus subjecting yourself to dysfunctional relationship dynamics like remaining involved with someone who sends mixed signals? This is a great question. And it reminds me of when I was helping a client debrief a dating experience where […]
When You’re Grieving the Relationship That Could Have Been
Three days after returning from what should have been a dream European vacation, Natalie sat in her apartment surrounded by unpacked bags and a grief she never saw coming. Her phone still held photos from those vibrant cities, right alongside four years of memories with Ryan. The man who had been her emotional anchor through […]
“If My Partner Loves Me, He Would Know What I Need”: How This Belief Actually Prevents Deep Connection
Emma was curled up on the couch next to Alex, their feet tangled under a cozy blanket. The TV was on, but Emma’s mind was somewhere else entirely. She kept stealing glances at Alex, who was laughing at something on the screen, totally clueless to the anger brewing inside her. You see, Emma had this […]
When He Doesn’t Tell You What He’s Really Thinking and Feeling: How to Take the Guesswork Out of Relationship Communication
Ever found yourself guessing what your partner’s silence means? Or trying to figure out if there’s more behind that “I’m fine” when deep down, you feel he’s not all fine? We’ve all been there, right? Trying to mind-read in our relationships, thinking it shows how connected we are. But let’s be real, how often does […]