I believe that every relationship is different, which is why it upsets me when I see articles that make blanket statements about men (or women) and what you “should” do in your relationship. It’s like those articles that say something to the effect of “divorced men make great partners because they know how to commit […]
15+ Important Questions to Consider When Dating a Separated, Divorced, or Divorcing Man
Unfortunately (or fortunately…depending on how you look at it), there is no simple mathematical equation, or test, or quiz that can predict whether or not your relationship will be a lasting success. Our life is an experience—not a foregone conclusion (and that’s a good thing!). But the more aware you are of what, potentially, you’re […]
The Smart Girl’s Guide to Dating a Divorced (or Divorcing) Man [FREE GUIDE]
Am I ultimately going to be happy with him? Is this relationship going to be fulfilling for me in the long term? I know these are really big questions when we’re considering someone as a possible long-term partner. Those, among other questions, were the hard questions that I grappled with before deciding to commit to […]
36 Questions to Help You Decide Whether You Should Stay or You Should Go
The truth is, there are no hard and fast rules about compatibility, and whether you should stay or go. Unless, of course, you’re in an abusive relationship—In which case, there is NEVER a reason to stay if you are being physically or emotionally abused. But what if you’re experiencing challenges in your relationship and are […]
What to Expect When Dating a Divorced Dad
Regardless of what stage of divorce he is in, there are always potential long-term realities to be aware of when dating a divorced man or a divorced man with children. Not every divorce or relationship has these qualities, but they are things to consider as you think about whether you want to be with him […]
The Truth about Death, Loss, and Regaining Our Joy
It was the Saturday after Thanksgiving and I’ll never forgot the sound of my sister’s voice when she called. “Melissa, did you hear?” she said in a slow, hushed tone. My mind raced. Maybe grandma was in hospital again. Or something horrible happened to one of our friends. “Milo died.” she said. “What?” And then […]
The real reason we get creative blocks and how to overcome them
“Close the door. Write with no one looking over your shoulder. Don’t try to figure out what other people want to hear from you; figure out what you have to say. It’s the one and only thing you have to offer.”– Barbara Kingsolver A blank page. A world waiting to be born. That’s what it […]
Are You Hiding Behind (Well-Intended) Excuses?
For months now I’ve been telling friends and family that I’m going to finally launch my website and blog, and I’ve been telling them for weeks and months. I’ve announced false launches; I’ve missed deadlines on my own launch calendar. And every time I’d get really close to pressed “publish,” something would come up. An […]
How Working Too Hard May Be Sabotaging Your Efforts
I realized that I was just wasting time. One evening, almost midnight, I was fussing over whether the text on my business card should be dark purple or black. I kept switching the text colors. Dark purple. Black. Dark purple. Black.
How to Make Smart Intuitive, Decisions When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed
Have you ever tried to talk yourself into doing something that you didn’t really want to do? Maybe you wrestled between two paths…both had pros and cons and you just couldn’t figure out which path was right for you. I like to think that I’m pretty clear on my desires and that I know what […]
