Have you ever been in a relationship, or are currently in one, that feels like an emotional rollercoaster? Did you find yourself so emotionally attached to him or to an outcome in the relationship that it nearly drove you crazy? (Or maybe it’s still driving you crazy?) It’s hard not to get emotionally enmeshed. When […]
Should You Wait for Him to Be Ready for a Relationship?
This week’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about what to do when we’re frustrated with the pace of our relationship and whether you should wait for him to come around:
How to Avoid Being the Rebound Woman
Maybe you met online…maybe through work. He’s very recently divorced. He’s going through a lot of emotional and legal stuff. Contentious litigation. Vindictive ex-wife (or soon-to-be ex-wife). His kids are unhappy. But then he met you. You’re a break in his storm clouds, a compassionate ear, a warm embrace, not to mention you’re hot, sexy […]
Is He Is Ready for a Relationship After Divorce?
One of the most common concerns women have when it comes to dating a divorced or separated man is whether or not he is over his previous relationship and ready for new love. We’ve all jumped into a new relationship before we were ready and most of us, at some point or another, have been […]
What Is Commitment in Dating and Relationships?
The question of when a relationship is committed is a source of much confusion and debate. We live in a time when the marriage rate is going down, the co-habitation rate is going up, and the majority of first-born children are now born to unmarried parents. In this article I hope to shed some light […]
Emotional Attachment Versus Love: Is There a Difference?
Have you ever been in a relationship that you know isn’t right for you, but you just can’t let him go? That basically sums up my relationships in my twenties. In retrospect, it was a time in my life when I was really struggling. When I was growing up, the messages giving to me by […]
How to Avoid Getting Your Heart Broken When Dating a Recently Divorced Man
He’s handsome, fun-loving, and you like him a lot… But he’s also recently (maybe very recently) divorced, and you’re wondering if dating this man is a good idea. You probably have a million questions on your mind. “Should I continue to see him?” “Is he over his ex wife?” “What am I really in for?” […]
How to Let Go of Resentment in Your Relationship
I couldn’t go to my stepdaughter’s graduation, and I’ll admit it, it hurt. I pictured the school auditorium filled with happy parents and the 7th grade band playing Pomp and Circumstance to a line of excited 8th graders marching to the stage. I missed it because the students were only allowed two tickets to the […]
5 MORE Signs the Divorced Man You’re Dating Has Long-Term Potential
If you found the previous article on signs that your partner has long-term potential helpful, here are five more signs that you should keep a look out for in your relationship, if you are trying to decide whether he’s right for you. Consider it a “thumbs up” if: He is Open to Growth and Change […]
5 Signs the Divorced Man You’re Dating Has Long-Term Potential
I know that a lot of the articles on this Web site deal with red flags and relationship problems. And my general philosophy is that long-term potential in a relationship is really based on what matters to you; what makes for a happy, fulfilling relationship in your world? Your relationship relationship requirements will be different […]