Dear Melissa, I need help healing a broken heart. Long story short… I met a man going through a divorce in 2012 with two young children. He was going through a divorce and I was trying to have a child on my own. We dated for 3 years and all was going well. But then […]
Should I Be Worried If He Hasn’t Said I Love You?
Dear Melissa, I’ve been separated from my husband for over 4 years. We have 2 children (15 and 12). Two years ago, I started seeing a wonderful man. He’s been separated about 4 years as well and also has 2 children around the same age as mine. Everything is going well! We’ve been taking things […]
Should I Tell Him I Want a Real Relationship?
Dear Melissa, Should I go ahead and ask this man to be in a relationship with me? He is divorced 5 years. He pursued me but I guess he got scared and retreated but I was already hooked. We continued to get close but I could feel him pushing away or not being as forthcoming […]
How Do You Know If You Can Trust Him?
Dear Melissa, If your boyfriend’s friends are sexist and still like to “party” despite the fact that they’re in their 40’s now, can you ever really trust him around them or entirely respect him for choosing to associate with such people? – Ulrika
His Ex-Wife’s Stuff Is Still in the House. Does He Still Have Feelings for His Ex?
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about what to do when your man still has photos of his ex on Facebook and still has some of his ex’s belongings. Does it mean that he hasn’t moved on? In my response, I provide guidance on how to […]
When a Guy Says He Needs Time to Think, What Does That Mean?
Does the man you’re dating still have “unfinished business” with his ex-wife even though they’ve been divorced for a while? You thought that you were in the clear because he’s divorced. And then he tells you one of the worst things a man you’re totally into could tell you: He “needs some time apart” so […]
You Shouldn’t Need To Choose Between Your Children And Partner
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about whether she has to choose between being a mother or being a woman, and whether it’s realistic for her to require her boyfriend to take both her and her children, even though he hinted that he’d rather the kids be […]
Am I Being Unreasonable for Wanting More Time With My Boyfriend?
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about whether she is being unreasonable by wanting more time with her boyfriend and more predictability in her relationship. In my response, I provide guidance on how to approach this question, including how to reduce the anxiety around the lack of […]
How Long Should You Wait for Him to Commit? (And How to Know When You’ve Waited Long Enough)
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about how to know if you’ve waited long enough in a relationship when you’re waiting for someone to resolve some issues in their life so they can go into deeper levels of involvement and commitment with you.
What to Do When He’s Not over His Ex (But He Still Wants to See You)
Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about what to do when you’re deeply involved with someone, maybe even in love with them, but it’s become apparent that they’re not over their ex. In my response, I provide guidance on how to approach this question when you’re already involved […]
